Build your community with these 8 types of people
Having a strong network of people is an important factor in adult development.
The key to a healthy and fulfilled life is a sense of community. Without it, life can be lonely, isolated and unstable.
Humans have a primal need for a support system that contributes and exchanges resources, skills and knowledge. This is the foundation for thriving in a safe environment. Forming a strong bond with those around us is known to have a positive impact on our physical and mental health, success and happiness.
This community can be built from a variety of connections: Friendships, romantic relationships, colleagues, acquaintances, teammates, and neighbours. Look for people who fulfil you in different ways. You may never find one person who provides everything you need — that would be like putting all of your eggs in one basket. Identify your network of people you admire, relate to, and trust.
There may be a special kinship with people you least expect. It’s also important to remember that you may not offer this person the same thing in return. However, they are sure to feel gratified by something you have to offer them, that is an integral part of their own community.
Here are eight types of people to look for in your community circle.
1. The Helper
Who can you call in the middle of the night if you’re feeling sick, worried or scared? This person is your safety net — the reliable one who will rescue you when you’re stranded, run an errand when you’re tied up, and clean up at the end of your party. They are quick to offer assistance, keep their promises, support your causes, and always show up when you need them.
2. The Fan
Everyone needs a cheerleader, which is someone who truly believes in them. If you’re in a slump or lacking confidence, they will encourage you and boost your self-esteem. Rise above self-doubt and apprehension with this new-found courage.
3. The Realist
This person will always tell you the truth, even if it’s not what you want to hear. The Realist helps you to make decisions by offering objective views and pragmatic advice. Seek their perspectives when you’re feeling overwhelmed or uncertain, and they may help to shed light on your situation.
Note: It’s always a good idea to reflect on what you need at that moment — a boost of confidence from The Fan, or to come back down to earth with The Realist!
4. The Master
This person is a positive influence that motivates you to be your best. They seem to excel in many ways — they’re smarter, more prosperous, highly skilled, and all-round brilliant. Instead of comparing yourself, look to them for inspiration. Follow The Master’s footsteps on the path of accomplishment and self-development.
5. The Familiar
This person is special because they allow you to be totally yourself. Maybe you have a shared past, they know something private about you, or you’ve been through an experience together. Whenever you need to feel grounded, The Familiar reminds you of who you really are.
6. The Entertainer
Who is the one in your community that makes you laugh like nobody else can? This person has you smiling from ear-to-ear without even realising it. Spending time with The Entertainer makes all of your troubles dissolve away. Laughter releases endorphins — those feel-good brain chemicals — which are also known to ease pain. The effects can remain for a long time afterwards.
7. The Mentor
Surround yourself with people who are experts in your field of interest. They will be your teachers and guides, whether it’s for your career, personal growth, creative endeavours, or practical skills. Observe and question them. Connect with those who are enthusiastic about your self-development and learn from their advice and experience.
8. The Pillar
Saving the best for last, The Pillar is one who offers unconditional love. No matter how badly you’ve messed up, they will always be there to listen and offer comfort. This is the person that has seen you at your worst but will never judge or berate you for it.
“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much” — Helen Keller
Each one of these relationships is like a precious jewel on your crown. Shine them regularly, to nurture and sustain these connections. You, too, are a jewel in someone else’s crown. The power of community will lead to great happiness, purpose and fulfilment in your life.
Are there any other types of people in your community that you value? I’d love to hear about it! Share in the comment below.